Single woman: what do you look for in a partner?
Popular answers might include looks, a good job or a sense of humour – but one man seems to think an annual supply of 700 pounds (lbs) of beef gives him the edge.
This is the subject of a Twitter thread shared over the weekend, which has since gone viral.
A man named Stephen Vickers – who goes by the epithet “Dangerously Beefy” – bemoaned his single status, accusing the women in his life of preferring to date “losers” rather than enjoy what he had to offer as a “provider”.
My housing is paid for. I make a good salary. I get health insurance, 401k, 700 lbs of beef a year, and I live on a couple hundred acres. I’m a puncher by trade with a bachelors degree. And I swear you women would rather have a loser than a provider. It’s sad— Dangerously Beefy (@vickers_stephen) November 3, 2019
It’s not just 700 pounds of beef, mind you – Vickers also boasts health insurance, a good salary and “a couple hundred acres” [sic].
His post has, at time of writing, garnered over 12,000 likes and thousands of comments.
The jury’s out on whether the post has scored him any dates. But there’s certainly been a lot of mockery.
Steve you sound super hot but I’m only interested in 30-50 feral hogs— Huma Not Abedin (@hoomie2424) November 3, 2019
It’s almost as if beef and a degree aren’t prerequisites for dating.— Ryan, but spookier (@rynels) November 3, 2019
A number of people are also calling Vickers out on feminism grounds, saying women don’t need a “provider” in the 21st century but rather an equal partner.
I'm capable of financially supporting myself. If you're struggling with women, I suggest considering what you offer to women who don't need a provider.— Sarah 🐈🧵☕🎮📚👠🐉 (@sosomanysarahs) November 4, 2019
Why would I need a provider?— Kind, sober, & fully dressed 🇳🇿 😂💤🍩 (@crims0nl1z) November 4, 2019
I’ve provided for myself my entire life, when I got married it wasn’t to find a man to “provide” for me. Not everyone is looking to be taken care of and it sounds like your mentality that housing and beef (?!) is all you need to bring to the table is what’s standing in your way.— Jax ⚡️ (@Diamond_Jax) November 4, 2019
Women aren't looking for a "provider" anymore, we are looking for a partner/teammate. We have degrees, jobs with benefits, housing, etc. We can provide for ourselves so we want to be with someone that loves, encourages & pushes us. We don't need to be rescused or provided for.— Mel 🎀 (@xoxomrsdixon) November 3, 2019
People are also calling out Vickers on his sense of entitlement – suggesting he’s got the wrong approach to finding a meaningful relationship.
Would you be attracted to a woman who tweeted “I’m pretty, smart, sweet and loyal but for some reason men keep picking these easy ugly girls and it’s really frustrating that there’s no good guys out there”... anyone who thinks the problem is other people, should be avoided.— Layla Maryam Razavi (@LaylaMRazavi) November 3, 2019
Does any of that make you a good partner to build a relationship with? No.— meman mevegan (@memanmevegan) November 4, 2019
None of these things indicate that you have a personality or a kind heart, so maybe that's your problem idk pic.twitter.com/Dr5SlJTmmQ— 🍍HECKBOY🍍 (@outofmyplanet) November 3, 2019
Earlier this year, a video of a five foot tall man ranting about heightism on dating apps went viral – prompting a debate about the qualities people look for in online dating.
According to dating app Jigtalk, this is what men and women look for in a potential partner (you’ll notice pounds of meat are conspicuously absent).
Most important traits in a partner – (what females look for)
Sense of humour (70%)
Conversational skills (58%)
Education level (21%)
Job title (20%)
Financial stability (16%)
Music choice (13%)
Mutual friends (9%)
Body shape (8%)
Most important traits in a partner – (what males look for)
Sense of humour (55%)
Conversational skills (45%)
Body shape (27%)
Education level (24%)
Job title (21%)
Financial stability (18%)
Music choice (13%)
Mutual friends (12%).