Mumsnet user asks if it's OK to tell newly-vegan guest to bring own dish for Christmas

Francesca Specter
·Yahoo Style UK deputy editor
Family together Christmas celebration concept. Festive place setting for holiday dinner with natural decorations from fir tree branches.
A woman is struggling with the task of catering for a vegan guest at Christmas. [Photo: Getty]

A woman has divided opinion on Mumsnet after asking whether she’s justified in asking a newly-vegan family member to bring their own dish to a Christmas Day meal she is hosting.

In the AIBU [Am I Being Unreasonable] forum on Mumsnet, the user asked others’ opinion of her plan.

She explained she cooks the festive meal for her family every year, and is planning to make a pork joint along with a turkey joint for her ten guests to enjoy.

But one guest has since announced she is now vegan – putting a spanner in the works for her Christmas feast.

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“I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc,” the woman laments – adding that she also has a nut allergy sufferer in the party which rules out a number of vegan options, and has already planned the whole meal around the size of her oven and hob.

The dilemma has been met with a mixed response on the parenting platform.

Some supported the host’s suggestion.

“Yanbu [You Are Not Being Unreasonable] to suggest they cater for themselves imo [In My Opinion],” wrote one person. “You have nine others to organise. If it's a fad they may be carnivorous by 25/12 anyway!!”

Another added: If you're not going to have the space in your oven I think it's reasonable. Plus, depending on how strict a vegan they are, they might not want their food in the oven at the same time as non-vegan food.”

But others suggested she was being a bad host.

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“I think you are being a bit unreasonable. I understand the nut allergy of your other guest but I'm sure you could buy something that wouldn't be terribly troublesome to heat up and a cold dessert to serve,” said one person.

Another offered: “You're already serving two kinds of meat for people's choices and avoiding nuts in order to be a good host, how can adding a vegan option be that much harder? Either cater to your guests needs or don't bother.”

One person suggested compromising halfway, and asking the guest what they are comfortable with eating: “I'd ask if they're happy with just veg and trimmings. If not then with a couple of vegan sausages. If not then ask them to bring their own.”

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