"I think my older son saw me trying to keep the family together," Long said, "but I had to come to a place where loving myself was bigger and more important than saving anybody"
"I had a really public breakup recently," Long, 53, said in a video posted to Jeezy's YouTube. "It was a wakeup call for me in the sense of like, 'OK, you're going to do this on your own and you're going to be fine and you're not going to worry about what anyone thinks and has to say.'"
“The relationship was rocky for a very long time,” she confessed, adding. “I don't believe another person can break anyone up.”
Her breakup with the former Boston Celtics head coach not only affected Long, but also her son Massai, 22, from a previous marriage.
“I think my older son saw me trying to keep the family together. But I had to come to a place where loving myself was bigger and more important than saving anybody,” she explained.
In December 2022, Long and Udoka ended their 13-year relationship after news broke of the basketball pro’s alleged affair with a female subordinate within the team's organization. The team suspended Udoko for the 2022–2023 season shortly after.
"The situation is unfortunate and painful, but Nia is focusing on her children and rebuilding her life," a source told PEOPLE at the time.
Udoka later issued a statement to ESPN's Malika Andrews: "I want to apologize to our players, fans, the entire Celtics organization, and my family for letting them down. I am sorry for putting the team in this difficult situation, and I accept the team's decision."
His message concluded, "Out of respect for everyone involved, I will have no further comment."
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Long and Udoka got engaged in 2015 and share one child together, 12-year-old son Kez. The exes first met in February 2010 when Udoka was a player for the Sacramento Kings. According to the Boston Globe, Long was in Boston filming a pilot for NBC and Udoka was playing against the Celtics when a mutual friend set them up.
"I think I'm exactly where I need to be,” Long told Jeezy, 46, as she grew emotional. “Which is, some days, I'm totally good and then, other days, I'm like, 'Oh God, this feels like so much work.' And then, other days, it feels like women shouldn’t have to be this strong. I don't want to be this strong sometimes."
Wiping away her tears, she added, "No, I'm good. I mean, listen, it is what it is."
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